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Post by Champ on Aug 9, 2008 11:28:50 GMT -5
CHICAGO (Aug. 9) - Bernie Mac, the actor and comedian who teamed up in the casino heist caper "Ocean's Eleven" and gained a prestigious Peabody Award for his sitcom "The Bernie Mac Show," died Saturday at age 50.
"Actor/comedian Bernie Mac passed away this morning from complications due to pneumonia in a Chicago area hospital," his publicist, Danica Smith, said in a statement from Los Angeles.
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Post by Champ on Aug 9, 2008 11:29:44 GMT -5
man, that sucks. He was a funny motherfucker and was way too young
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Post by Naitch on Aug 9, 2008 15:04:29 GMT -5
He was one of the few black comedians who didn't suck in the last two decades.
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Post by Champ on Aug 9, 2008 21:11:03 GMT -5
He was great in Head of State with Chris Rock when he walked around in his pimp outfit and just pregnant dogslapped people
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Post by KOAG on Aug 10, 2008 20:57:26 GMT -5
I heard an interview with him a few years back and he said that his whole family died early and he knew he wouldn't live long. I guess it was bad genetics.
A lot of people are taking shits lately.
RIP - Ching a ling, Ching a ling!
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Post by Champ on Aug 11, 2008 10:19:15 GMT -5
Shit like that makes me nervous because my family has a history of heart attacks, high cholesterol, and lung cancer. All the men in my family all had heart attacks before 60 or strokes by 70. My dad is 58 so I'm just crossing my fingers on that one because he's the only one that I'm not blood related too that I know of that didn't have a heart attack or stroke. All I have to do is sniff a cheeseburger and my triglycerides go through the fuckin roof. Even when I eat decent and work out they're always still borderline high. Then on top of it, I still smoke occasionally and I'm trying to kick that. I also started a new drinking habit. I got to the point where I was drinking at least a 6 pack worth a day and then a half bottle of wine. I was getting so out of control. So now, with the help of my drummer who's been awesome because he was a lot worse than me, came up with a plan to not drink during the week for any reason, even if it's a holiday. So basically from Monday til Friday afternoon/evening I'm not allowed to drink anymore. Thank god my birthday is on a Sunday this year lol
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Post by Naitch on Aug 11, 2008 17:00:54 GMT -5
Time to get a new hobby or two to keep your mind off it. Make a Best of Adamle videos and put them on youtube.
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Post by Champ on Aug 11, 2008 19:05:08 GMT -5
Dude let me tell you something. Kind of a long story but you'll see the point I'm getting at. It has an appreciative ending.
As you know I've dealBt with a lot of DemonDs. In other words I'm still dealing with a lot of anxiety and depression and I'm withdrawing from a medicine dose that was too high and I've been sending emails to Craig's list all day for job opportunities and that's one of my biggest fears in the world....introducing new people into my life or being unhappy and dealing with personal episodes while on the job. Plus if I know nothing about the place I'm applying at, I get that much more nervous which I'll explain in a situation farther down the email. It's just really nerve racking for me. Plus with the extreme cut back on the drinking, I feel like I could really use a drink right now because of all this but I won't succumb to it......not til Friday at least.
Anyway a guy called me back about a warehouse job and I've never seen the place or the people and that's like the feeling of a person being afraid of heights and standing on the Edge of a 30 story building. I was SO nervous and my head was so spun from simply taking the baby steps to send out these emails and waiting anxiously for a return mail or the phone to ring that I looked at the caller ID and didn't even pick up the phone. He left a message and I even played his message 6 times and wrote his number down trying to get myself to call him and I was analyzing his speaking voice, like really being paranoid. I also stopped smoking 4:20 during the day so I don't get extra paranoid while doing these emails. The guy only called me at 6pm and asked me to call him back on his house phone tonight. I kept picking up the phone, putting it down, picking it up, putting it down just hesitating So finally, I decided, fuck it, for all he knows I went out for the night. If it was a rehearsal night I wouldn't have been able to call him tonight anyway. So I decided, I'll sleep on it and if it still bothers me tomorrow, I'll do the babysteps to get rid of that complete "unknown" fear. I'll mapquest the place, get in my car, drive to the place, park, walk around the place and get a peak in the window and if it's all good up to that point it'll be 10 times easier for me to walk in and say, hi I'm James Ravida and I got your message last night and would like to talk about a position. That way, I'm rested, my head is clear and I'll take an easier approach.
Now the point I was getting to is that this day was SO stressful for someone like me. Hell looking for work is stressful for anyone but when you have issues over it to top it off it's that much more draining and shitty to go through. BUT.....BUT the one thing that's making me get through this without having a drink or freaking out too much is because I know that in 1 hour I get to see Mike Adamle fuck with Kane. Ya know, it really is the little things in life that get you through the tough times
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Post by Naitch on Aug 12, 2008 2:45:32 GMT -5
I used to have some fears like that man. Then I saw the Godfather. That movie sure as shit cured my fears. Your not Frito man, your Al Pacino. Life gets you down but then you gotta shoot that dirty fuckwad cop in the face in the diner.
Now I'm not saying you should shoot a cop in the face (unless you enjoy dark meat in very small rooms) but what I am saying is just hurdle past that shit. Get KOAG over at your place and have him dial. Just like when you were 15 and your chicken shit friend wouldn't dial Susie Rottencrotch's phone number to ask her to some shitty dance. I think if you just do the step in hind site you'll feel accomplished and wonder what the big fuss was.
The first couple days of the job might be scary but after a week you'll be making dirty jokes with the other dudes in your warehouse. Shit son you might score some titty mags.
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Post by Champ on Aug 12, 2008 15:27:25 GMT -5
I know you're right. I'm actually thinking of going to a phobia clinic because I get myself so fucked up and stressed out I can't make any moves. They teach you the proper way to take the steps. I've been to group sessions with anxiety disorders, bi-polar, depression, but the one thing I never went to is a phobia clinic. For the most part I don't get real panic attacks anymore and if I'm depressed it's because I'm unhappy. And I'm not bi-polar but I have some manic episodes once in a while where I get on an extreme high and then crash. But that's very rare. The one thing I never tried was the phobia clinic. I need something to teach me how to take steps again and not let my past dictate how things are going to turn out for me in the future. It's tough man but I know it has to be done, not even so much for the money(even though I'm desperate) but so I'll just feel that much more comfortable inside my skin and get through shit easier
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Post by MasterSnit on Aug 12, 2008 17:39:16 GMT -5
The first hurdle is always the hardest to jump, but once you clear that first obstacle things get so much easier.
Champ, I know you've probably heard it a million times, but whatever it is about yourself that gets you down, it's all only in your own head. Don't convince yourself that you are inferior to others because it's simply not the case. Whatever problems or fears you have, you're definitely not alone, everyone has things that they dislike about themselves and fear and worry over but most people just bull-shit their way through it.
You're honest enough to acknowledge you have problems, unlike most people. Honesty is a desirable and respectable quality as far as I'm concerned. Forget about anything negative and focus on your positives. You'll probably find that you have more to be thankful for than you realise and just keep that mindset and move forward with it.
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Post by KOAG on Aug 12, 2008 19:30:07 GMT -5
So did you call the guy back?
Maybe you have Ergophobia AKA Ergasiophobia Which is breathlessness, dizziness, excessive sweating, nausea, dry mouth, feeling sick, shaking, heart palpitations, inability to speak or think clearly, a fear of becoming mad or losing control, a sensation of detachment from reality or a full blown anxiety attack.
It is an intense fear of something that poses little or no actual danger. While adults with ergasiophobia realize that these fears are irrational, they often find that facing, or even thinking about facing, the feared situation brings on a panic attack or severe anxiety.
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Post by Champ on Aug 12, 2008 20:29:43 GMT -5
Thank you MS. I know I'm not inferior. I'm just so uncomfortable in new social situations and my problem is I don't know how to simply grab the motherfuckin bull by the horns and that's what I have to toughen up with. And the fact that I'm honest with my problems is because I feel if I talk openly about them, other people will feel they're not alone and if you ever develop fear, it could be a lot worse. Hell, there's people who haven't left their house in 20 years because they're so afraid of the world. I'm miles ahead of that but there's also people that are miles ahead of me and it's good to know we all have fears. Some people are better at handling than others. I can get up on a stage and play in front of 10,000 people if I had the opportunity and it would be no sweat for me. Go figure that one out! LOL Most people are petrified of that, meanwhile I'm scared to walk into a workplace. It's funny how fears affect people
I was actually going to drive to the place today because it's a lot easier if I see the place first before I go into a situation where I know nothing. It's like getting my feet wet, realizing the pool isn't as cold as I thought and then jumping in. I never went though because I got offered a job working from home that offers a 401K that I found off of Craig's list. It's a legit job and the ad said they needed people to work from their computers. It's kind of the easy way out but I'm starting to build a plan now. Tomorrow my guitarist and I are going to both talk to the woman. We've been in contact through email and she seems very nice and she left me a message on my machine while I was at rehearsal and she was extremely friendly. The reason I'm doing this is because I need money NOW and I have to go see my therapist on Friday to talk about making steps in other ways. For example. If I can start working for this woman now, I think I might consider volunteering in support groups and try to help other people that are going through what I'm going through. I think if I do that and see that I can make an impact on people like me, I will build much more confidence to try and move on to a career and in the meantime I can get a little cash flow while working on myself.
That's basically what an anxiety disorder is in a nutshell. I got my meds straightened out for the most part and I cut my drinking down immensely and I started working out really hard again and dieting. Since I made all of those changes I noticed that I'm physically starting to level off a little more now. My problem now is just the fear of the fear like I'm going to go into a place and THEN have one of those attacks on the job where I can't think straight and start fucking up or feeling depressed because the job I'm working isn't for me and then I have to go through it all over again. It's the typical anticipatory anxiety and it's textbook. I have to work past that
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Post by Naitch on Aug 13, 2008 0:59:03 GMT -5
You know what you should do for a job? You should be a personal trainer. You know how to do that and about diet and muscles. You can also charge $40 an hour. Thats how you weed out people wasting your time that aren't serious about it. All you have to do is guide them working out. Do the home job for awhile while you figure out how to do something you have a passion for.
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Post by KOAG on Aug 13, 2008 7:31:22 GMT -5
Well good luck man, I know you can do it!
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